A to Z – The ABC’s of Me: M


This is my seventh year of participation in the A to Z Challenge. My intent this year is to share a little bit about me each day… the good, the bad, and the ugly… so you can get to know “the woman behind the words” a little better!

I am the middle child in my family. I have a sister who is two years older than me, and another who is three years younger.  Much has been written about the role of a middle child, it is not the most desirable position to claim.

My older sister was my mother’s favorite, and my younger one was “Daddy’s little girl” until the day he died. This left me feeling a bit short-changed at times, though I worked hard to win favor from both parents, (at least until my teen years),  most often being the one to help mom or dad with projects and such.  As the middle child I grew rebellious as I got older, sometimes acting out, and sometimes feeling like I didn’t belong at all.

As an adult I have often been stuck in the role of peacemaker between my two sisters, and this has caused far more frustration and grief than it ever brought resolution. In recent years I have learned that it is best to bow out, to refuse to be pulled one direction or another, and to let them settle (or not settle) their differences and disagreements on their own.  As an Aquarian, I am a peacemaker. I believe in harmony and learning to let go of past hurts and grievances and get along.  It hurts my heart that at over sixty years old they still haven’t managed to forge a lasting peace between them.  I have often wished that I had a couple more siblings to balance things out a bit.  My own kids would undoubtedly have benefited from more siblings too, and I wish now that having larger families wouldn’t have been such a shunned idea at that time.

I was born and raised in the Midwest, in small towns in the Northeast corner of South Dakota to be exact.  For the most part it was a good place to grow up, and a good way of life. Eastern South Dakota is farming country, my father was a John Deere Implement Dealer.  He was a good businessman who supported us well.  In my teen years I couldn’t wait to escape small town life, but as I’ve grown older I miss those simpler times.  I miss the trees and the lakes, the change of seasons, and walking barefoot through soft green grass in the summer. I don’t miss the mosquitos that loved me way too much, or the icy cold winters that can start in October and continue into April. (They are experiencing yet another blizzard there this weekend!)

Moving has played a big role in my life.  This is a reprint from my previous blog…

In 2012 I wrote a post called The Road I’ve Travelled which listed the thirty-seven residences in eighteen cities, eight states and two countries that I’ve called home in my sixty-plus years of life.

I’ve moved with my family, with a partner, and sometimes on my own. Some of those moves were sad and/or scary, but usually I was happy to see the old address in the rear view mirror. I always look forward to the adventure of discovering a new place; I have a Gypsy soul.

Papa Bear has also moved more than twenty times in his life so we are quite content to stay put on our little piece of land out in the country for the time being. We are talking about making one more move though, to someplace greener than it is here in West Texas; one more change of address before our final forwarding address reads “Gone to Heaven.” 🙂

How many different places have you lived? Which one is the furthest from where you grew up? 


Links to all of my 2018 A-Z Posts:

Author: Josie Two Shoes

I've been blogging off and on since August of 2006. I adopted the pen name Josie Two Shoes in 2007 as I began a new chapter of my life standing on my own two feet. Now I'm married to the man of my dreams; we live in dusty West Texas with a house full of furkids. I am an Aquarian by birth, and although I am past sixty and slightly frayed around the edges, my fascination with this thing called life continues. Faith, family, and friends are important to me; so are honesty, trust, tolerance, compassion and kindness. I'm pretty up front about most things, so if you want to know something more about me, just ask! :-) You can also reach me by email and find me at my Facebook page.

23 thoughts on “A to Z – The ABC’s of Me: M”

  1. I have two older sisters and one younger sister so I was kind of the middle child except that my older sisters were 10 and 12 years older than I so by the time I was 8 they were both married and out of the house. Then I was the oldest. I never really felt that my parents had a favorite. I’ve never moved farther than 5 or 10 miles from where I grew up although I have lived in 9 houses/apartments within those 5 or 10 miles.

  2. Nice to learn more about you. I am sorry you felt out of place in the middle though. I am a fan of only children, I have an older sister who is not very nice to me.I feel bad for my great-niece that she is going to have a little sister soon. Maybe I would feel differently if I had been treated better by my sister. My hubby has the same problem with older brother.
    I have lived in the same small town my whole life aside from college. It is good in some ways and bad in others. I sometimes feel like I live among ghosts.XO

  3. I am an only child, but my husband is the eldest of four. Both has advantages and disadvantages, I would have liked to have a brother or sister. My husband would have liked more attention by his parents. Wow, you moved a lot in your life. I alway lived in a radius of 50 k!

  4. Middle children do have it the hardest, i think. That’s why i’m glad i have 4, i tried to dote on the two in the middle just as much.

    While i’ve moved a couple of times, it’s never been that far or that often!

  5. I was a middle child. With a brother eight years older than me and a younger brother just nineteen months younger I was confused as to my place. I sometimes felt like the firstborn other times like a twin. I have lived in nineteen different apartments or houses. most in the county where I was born. I moved from Ohio to SC

  6. Hi there! I was the baby of the family, but I only had a big brother, so I guess I was just the second child. I was a daddy’s girl when I was little, but when I grew up it was Mom & Me always hangin’ out! My brother was taken too soon in that he passed away of a massive heart attack when he was 44. I miss him. Well, when I started having babies I made up for the only two (mom had breast cancer early in life and the babies stopped. I was the last one. I had five children and my brother had four so my Mom was in her glory with all her grandchildren! I have an even dozen for grandchildren and I have two great grandchildren. Can you imagine my house at Christmas time??? bwahahahahaha Have a great weekend! Nice to meet you! HUGS

  7. The middle child in my family is the boy between two sisters. Although we were never too close as children (I think my mom’s philosophy was divide and conquer) we are now. Weather in the Midwest plains is even worse that the Northeast. Especially this year. Yesterday it was 85, today it is 45 and windy and rainy. The biggest move I ever made, was moving to Colorado for about five years in my late twenties. It was time of growth and becoming who I am. I needed to separate my self from my family to become truly independent.

  8. I just counted. 7 different towns or cities, 17 different homes or apartments. I moved to Nashville from Branson knowing only two people who lived there. My parents didn’t want me to go so far away, but they helped me move there. The furthest I ever went was from Nashville to LA when I got married. I kind of feel sorry for people who stay in the same place all their lives. So many adventures to be had, even if they aren’t always positive experiences.

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