This is my seventh year of participation in the A to Z Challenge. My intent this year is to share a little bit about me each day… the good, the bad, and the ugly… so you can get to know “the woman behind the words” a little better!
Since my recent posts have been long and of a serious nature, I thought I’d shorten it up a bit today and give your eyes a rest. 🙂
I’m sure that most of you know that Josie Two Shoes isn’t my given name, though I wish it was. My legal first name is Wendy and I’ve had five last names, counting my maiden name! I’m keeping this one, and the awesome guy that gave it to me. 🙂
My middle name is Jo… that’s where the Josie part comes from. I adopted the pen name Josie Two Shoes after I left my previous husband and moved out on my own. I wanted something to symbolize standing on my own two feet, but Josie Two Feet didn’t quite have the right effect… hence, Josie Two Shoes came into existence and I’ve used it ever since.
Even though Josie is not my legal name, I feels more real to me than Wendy does. Wendy has never really felt like it fit me well. Since Josie is the identity I use in writing and blogging, it is also the name where I have been most open and real. Anyone who knows me as Josie probably knows a lot more about me than those who don’t.
I originally started using a pen name as a means of deterring coworkers and family members from snooping, but it really isn’t very hard for anyone to track down my real identity if they are determined, I’ve even shared it now and then on my previous blog.
Obviously, if you have a public blog you do so with the expectation that people will be able to connect you to your writings, which is both a good thing and a risky thing. As you’ve noticed I’m pretty much a “put it all out there” person, and I’ve experienced a bit of stalking/harassment from time to time, even going so far as to make my blog private, by invitation only, for awhile. But it wasn’t any fun that way, because I never had the opportunity to meet new people or have them discover me. So I’ll take the risk, and if someone has an issue with who I am or what I write, so be it, it is my reality and I am good with it.
One additional thought on privacy… have you ever had a friend or family member that read your blog regularly but didn’t tell you or ever write a comment, and then one day refers to something you’ve written? I have, and it made me a little uncomfortable, it wasn’t a family member I felt close to, and it felt like she was a lurker just being snoopy. Ugh! I am grateful for anyone who finds what I write to be interesting enough to return again, but please take a moment to at least say “hi” now and then, ok? 🙂
Have you ever used a pen name or a nickname?
Links to all of my 2018 A-Z Posts: